In the early hours of this morning a comment was left on my blog. My brain shouted yay people are reading my blog, this makes me happy. It was a nice happy post about polyamory and me. Whoop joy all round.
So I cheerfully pressed to read the comment. Here is what it said “I can fully understand why you would want to sleep with other people but you could at least have the decency to be quiet about it and save your husbands dignity.”
Well it is lovely of you to be so understanding and thinking of my husbands dignity but I can not be quiet about it, I am as a matter of fact rather vocal in the bedroom. It’s ok though my husband is rarely around when I am having sex with others so doesn’t usually hear it. On the odd occasions when he has though there is this little thing called compersion.
Compersion is A feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship.
This is a feeling my wonderful husband is more than capable of. He loves it when I am happy even when it is because someone else is pleasuring me. I much prefer it if all my partners feel like this, not doing has caused problems in the past.
Now I am actually well aware this is probably not what you meant. You are obviously of the affairs are ok but let’s not talk about it camp. Well I am most certainly not. My husband and I live in what we would think is a dignified relationship due it having complete and total honesty. To be honest though I don’t spend much time worrying about dignity as proven my your message whatever I do someone will think it’s undignified.
I shall just carry in living my open and honest life full of love thank you. Lies and hiding who I am don’t really work for me. Thanks for your advice though.
cute as sin 
I don’t even know what to say to the picture you’ve painted of your life, ha ha. So I’m going to try to sort out why I feel the way I do. Obviously, I don’t think what you’re doing is right. I wouldn’t do it. However, you don’t have the same morals or motivations that I do, so I’m not going to yell at you for it even if I wouldn’t do what you’re doing.
I guess this also kind of weirds me out so much because to me, my marriage is an exclusive thing. My husband has access to the deepest parts of my soul and my body, something no one else has ever had or will ever have. To us, marriage is an exclusive thing, and sex is a part of that.
Anyway. 🙂 I couldn’t think of what to say but somehow couldn’t say nothing after I read your blog. 🙂
You feel the need to comment when you don’t know what to say that seems a bit silly.
You felt the need to respond to a person who will probably never read it. Feelings are silly. 😉
I respond to all comments on my blog
You write a whole blog on all the comments you get?
No I write a blog on whatever I feel like writing I don’t really see why you care
I thought I explained why, while not having anything to say, I said something anyway. Sorry, maybe I’m over-confident in my communication skills. Should I try again?
No you never explained why you care to say anything just that you felt the need to. You just said you needed to comment even though you have nothing to say.
Does there have to be a reason besides the fact that I felt like I needed to?
To butt into other people’s lives telling them they are wrong. Yes there does.
Your blog is public. You’re inviting dialogue with people who both agree and disagree. I tried to be respectful. You have no reason to write your blog beyond that you feel you have to. 🙂 Isn’t it the same thing?
No because I am not judging others and you were not respectful
Oh. Sorry. I didn’t realise I was being disrespectful. You can delete my comment if you want. I didn’t mean to come off as judgemental. I’ve just never encountered your lifestyle before, and usually other bloggers welcome dialogue from different points of view. Again, sorry I came off as disrespectful. I didn’t mean to.
I welcome discussion but all you did was announce you had nothing to say and that what I am doing is wrong. I very much doubt you didn’t know you were being disrespectful.
You don’t have to believe me. Sorry. 🙂
Some people!
Your blog is your haven, for your innermost thoughts whether they are light or dark, and people should really keep to themselves whether they judge you or not, especially whilst they are stepping on your territory!
Keep up the honesty 🙂
M x
Thank you. I have no intention of changing how I write for me. I am not off telling others how to live they should have the same respect x
I have read through all your blogs and to be honest I find them quite fascinating!
I like the way you explain polyamory. Having previously understood nothing about it, I now know more and can honestly say I admire those who are able to be in a polyamourous relationship, Even though it’s not personally for me. I adore my partner and I couldn’t imagine sharing him with anyone else, which is why I wouldnt pursue it myself. And I respect the hell out of you for being able to express yourself and still remain true to yourself in the face of the of ignorant and nasty comments.
no matter what anyone else thinks is right or wrong, you know what is right for yourself and your family!
Just remember..
Opinions are like arseholes…..
Everyone has one but some stink more than others 🙂
Thank you so much for this comment. It’s definitely not for everyone and I think everyone should do what makes them happy. You are definitely right about opinions lol.
🙂 your welcome.
It was just my opinion.
🙂 Keep up the educating! 🙂 You have something worth hearing!
Thank you x