Hey everyone it’s bi visibility day


So it’s bisexuality visibility day, bisexual pride day etc.

I am bi-sexual I think pretty much everyone I know is aware of this. I am lucky that I am comfortable telling the world this. I wasn’t always so comfortable.

I have been told I am confused (oh yes that still happens) and I will make up my mind one day. I have been told that I am clearly straight as I am married. I have been told I am not welcome in gay venues because I was with a guy.

But today isn’t just about me (shocking) it’s about making all bisexuals visible to other communities. It’s about celebrating our past, the present and our future. It’s about recognition and making things better.

So a little history. Hopefully all of this is accurate (I can’t promise anything).

This day was just observed in 1999 as a response to prejudice in the straight and gay communities. It started in the states but is now celebrated in Canada, Australia, Japan, Germany, New Zealand, Sweden and the United Kingdom. The day aims to provide a platform to the bisexual community and their supporters and to bring global attention to the social, economic and cultural prejudices and challenges faced by bisexual people. Events held over the years include discussions, conferences and workshops. LGBT organisations have held public education programmes.

Present we are more visible than before but still suffer from biphobia on a large scale. Biphobic ideas include

A lot of people say bisexuality doesn’t really exist that you are either straight or gay and anything else is just confusion, being in the closet, being purposely awkward etc.

The claim that bisexuals are just after as much as they can get and will do anything with anyone without discrimination. They are incapable if just being with one person and being faithful. They are less careful and more likely to not use protection.

Hopefully in the future bisexuality will not be seen with such negative stereotypes.


Yes all men

The last couple of days I have seen a lot of hash tags for #notallmen and #yesallwomen over some pretty serious issues. It got me thinking and today I thought #yesallmen are negatively affected by patriarchy. This is why for me feminism stands up for them too.

So yes all men:-

Have problems because the patriarchal ideal male should should be strong, dominant and invulnerable meaning they
-End up in dangerous situations because showing fear would be weak
-Deal with mental illness without help because emotional weakness is un manly
-Are more likely to commit suicide possibly due to this lack of help
-Seek medical help less often, so regularly make conditions worse
-Get pressured into doing risky things to prove their toughness
-Have violence aimed at them ignored
-Have less social services aimed at them and struggle to find the help they need in violent situations
-Feel they must be sole provider for their family even if they are sick or injured
-Feel they need to prove themselves with violence
-Are more likely to be seriously physically attacked but it isn’t portrayed that way in the media
-Can end up very lonely as they are not taught to relate to others
-Struggle if they do not have a dominant personality
-Do not feel they can form close friendships with females or non binary gendered people meaning they miss out on alot of awesome people they could have in their lives.
-Feel unloved by fathers because showing emotional attachments is a sign of weakness
-Don’t form as close connections to their children as the mothers do due to several patriarchal constraints
-Suffer from strained relationships due to inability to portray emotions
-Struggle to find the depth of friendship that women have
-Are not taught how to emotionally manage trauma in their lives so have less coping mechanisms
-Are considered lesser men if they don’t fit these ideals
-Are rejected by society if they don’t fit these ideals leading to insecurity, self hate, anxiety and stress which they feel they can not communicate to anyone as it will lessen their worth further
-Can’t take part in some hobbies without being seem as less than this ideal
-Feel very pressured to dress appropriately
-Don’t receive gifts in the same way that women do, are rarely bought flowers even though they may appreciate them
-Are perceived in a way that makes women less trusting of them
-Experience more financial stress within their family
-Are not getting as much time to connect with their children
-Are continually stero typed in degrading ways
-Miss out on important milestones in their children’s lives
-Are less welcome at children’s playgrounds
-Are found intimidating by women they don’t know making it more difficult to do simple things like ask for directions
-Are expected to make sure females get home safely even if this means taking a more dangerous route home themselves

These are just some of the negative effects of patriarchy on men so yes all men whether you like it or not and why I am can promise all the men in my life I am a feminist because I love them and they deserve better too.