Another week of happy days

Hundredhappydays week 3

Day 15  this is my son’s beautiful hair grown for three years and cut off to send to little princess trust for little girls who lost their hair to cancer, proud mum face day

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Day 16 my overprotective and jealous cat sitting between me and anyone who comes into the house

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Day 17 practicing my rope skills on tink with raspberry laces

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Day 18 being the kind of crazy that doesn’t like standing on a bridge but will wade into a river

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Day 19 being photo bombed by my silly husband

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Day 20 a bit of a ropey photoshoot lol with tink

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Day 21 fabulous new hair and a weekday party

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So there we go another happy week

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Getting to know me

Facts about me that may or may not be of interest to people who read my blog but may help it make more sense when I write from now on.

1. I am Belisana, I am a genderqueer, pan sexual, pagan, mother, feminist, polyamorous, bipolar, kinky, switchy, cat, alternative, photographer, model…….
2. I have one child, a boy of 10 who will be called monkey from this point on
3. I am married to a wonderful man, have been for 8 years and together for a couple more than that, now known as H
4. I have a lovely boyfriend of just 2 1/2 months, now known as bf
5. I have a relationship forming with a wonderful woman but I am not sure where it is going, now known as bob
6. I write because I like to and I don’t mind if no one or everyone reads it
7. I am active on the local kink scene
8. I have a beautiful chosen sister, now known as tink.
9. I love my cat ivy more than I apparently should
10. I love my friends and have lots of them
11. I am having extensive medical treatment, no I don’t want to talk about it
12. I love to party
13. I live very much for the moment
14. I would love to change the world
15. I can think of nothing worse than being normal

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16. This is my seal of approval so don’t worry I don’t need anyone else’s

Hundred happy days

Two weeks ago I started the hundred happy days challenge, to post a picture that made me happy everyday. I have found this really helpful as I started it two days after starting very nasty medical treatment and it is helping to remind me of all the happy things in my life even on difficult days. I have found myself with so many moments to pick from everyday it’s been amazing.

I wanted to compile the pics somewhere easier to look back at them so I decided I could pop them up here every two weeks.

Day 1 puppy kisses

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Day 2
Seems to have disappeared
Day 3 a beautiful sunny lake when we thought we were going to get soaked on today’s shoot. 

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Day 4 finding a new way to coat plastic guns, also translates to having geeky friends

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Day 5 guillermo del toro day with my wonderful husband

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Day 6 also disappeared (may have to compile more often)
Day 7 listening to the a life less lived goth box set and my son dancing to misfits

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Day 8 reading a graphic novel my lovely boyfriend lent me on the grass in the sunshine, even if I did end up with muddy knees

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Day 9 a day in the sun with my beautiful lady, we are drinking orange juice, sober and still look drunk

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Day 10
random impromptu night out with sister, husband, boyfriend and all the other lovely people at Dusk Till Dawn

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Day 11 so much to be happy about  I don’t even know where to start, lovely day with friends in the pub, bbq with friends in the evening, fire jam fun times at night. The delightful Victoria giving me beautiful shoes and letting me borrow her marvellous antlers. Julie  saying I am getting better at hooping and promising to make it happen by making me a belated birthday hoop to practice with. Seeing Matt  and his fire whips for the first time in ages. But the picture I will go with is still definitely the one from the day that makes me laugh most my tiny hands compared to the giant.

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Day 12 sitting on a hill with a friend at sunset just because we can. Thanks Katie for a lovely time.

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Day 13 taking a walk 5 minutes from my house

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Day 14 me and the boyfriend pulling ridiculous faces to cheer up Lil sis

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And that’s two weeks of happiness from me.

Making time for more than one partner

Poly question number three
How do you find time for more than one relationship?

My first response to this is usually do you have more than one friend? How do you find time for that? I understand it’s different but I don’t think it’s that different. I make time for everyone in my life who means a lot to me, I don’t find making time for my partners too difficult really.

I live with my husband so he gets a lot of time with me in general but as a lot of that is spent doing non fun things like the food shopping, washing up and keeping the house a decent state we like to make sure we have date nights so we get quality alone time.

I find time for other partners based on mine and their other commitments for example work, other partners and childcare. I invite my current partner over to spend time with me at my house when I am busy with childcare or other things that keep me at home, I wouldn’t do this in a casual relationship because I wouldn’t introduce a casual partner to my child. I go to him when that is more convenient and sometimes we just meet up for an hour or so before/after work etc.

I am lucky in that my partner and my husband get on very well so I can spend time with them both at the same time, which definitely makes things easier.